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Comment by DR on August 29, 2009 at 1:41pm

I'm reading the comments here with much interest and I agree, its better to wait on God.

Before being saved, I read many books and articles on dating and dating advice and a lot of them were focused on playing games in order to establish "independence". I think there's some truth in this: I think for us men, women are attracted by independence. But I couldn't exactly do it!

Ironically, after being saved and placing God first in my life, I now have to beat women off with a stick! I believe that's due to His work in me and I believe women find that attractive, but I also know that Satan would want me to be unequally yoked. I learned the hard way that no person should come between my walk with God. I should have to reject my spouse if they try, per the Savior's words in Matthew 19:29 and other places. I think whoever He has for me will not try to interfere with that (although I don't think she'll be perfect either).

Honestly, I'm a major advocate of deliverance ministry before marriage. I practice courtship and thus do not believe the relationship should be physical before then. Actually, the OT has two forms of marriage -- betrothal (dedication without sexual relationships) and consummation (the consummation of the betrothal).

I'll probably write more about this on my blog, if people are interested.

Comment by Vickie Lege on August 29, 2009 at 1:07pm

So true Hannah I believe that if we are meant to have a partner God will do the choosing. I've found out recently that when you let your guard down your heart can be easily broken. I'm doing a discipleship class this weekend on Ruth I am looking forward to it. I've been divorced for 17 years and never dreamed I would find love again. I wrote a ministry blog on my experience with Internet Dating and what God thinks about that and how it can effect your walk with God when you don't use discernment in choosing a mate. I took my focus off God and on my friend and it caused alot of heartache for me. I have let God take my life and do the chosing now because he knows whats best for me. Only God can bring me happiness and love that I seek. I live to serve God and I will know when I finally meet my rose because the Lord will send him to me.

I know the loneliness and the rejection I had felt it most of my life but only God brought me out those pits and He loves me unconditionally and I have that assurance that He will not leave or dismay me. I've not met my Boaz but it would be nice to have that devotion and love from a mate that God chooses for me. LIfe is way too short to live in a miserable relationship so I will accept whatever God wants for my life I still have friends and family that love me and bring happiness to my heart.

Comment by Hannah Christine Gutu on August 29, 2009 at 9:22am

well guys waiting is good, but i believe position also plays an impotant part. You need to be rightfully positioned for you to meet your partner. Ladies lets look at Ruth. She positioned herself well in Boaz's field. Rebbecca was at the well when she met Abraham's servant. only when you start doing something in the kingdom will you meet the right person.There in your area of purpose. Sometimes we also look too far and search too deep. Look around you. Maybe the person you are looking for is just near by. So yes let's WATCH and pray.. I repeat WATCH andd pray. My eyes are wide open. LOL

Comment by tshepi on August 26, 2009 at 2:04am

Am with you Sugar, once you go up on your own it never works, as for me I am also learning to be patience, it is not always easy but when you focus on the Lord He will neve forsake you. Amen Sugar God's time always the best, never too early or late just on time.

Comment by Sugar on August 24, 2009 at 9:06pm

Bellasonus, Just be patient. I know how hard that can be, believe me, I know. However, when I go out on my own it never seems to work out and I end up getting hurt as well. I have learned to just wait. I know what you mean about the rejection thing as well, and it does hurt pretty bad. So now, I just try to focus on the Lord and trusting that he will send me that special someone when he sees that the time is right. God Bless!

Comment by ENAMOURED on August 23, 2009 at 10:31pm

Sugar
Yeah, is it me or are there just stuck up singles in the Church? I have got rejected a few times already and it hurt pretty bad.

Comment by ENAMOURED on August 23, 2009 at 10:25pm

LOL, it's all good brother Felix.

Comment by felixpadua on August 23, 2009 at 8:09pm

i am not single but i want to join this group. is it okay with you?

Comment by Alet on August 19, 2009 at 1:21am

Hallo dear single friends. I have a serious question for you today. What do you make of this? See what the Word says: 1 Corinthians 7:10-11 To the married I give this comand (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife. God bless you, love.

Comment by Sugar on August 18, 2009 at 1:06pm

Hi Bellasonus, it is very hard to find someone that really wants to serve the Lord. I am waiting as well. I have not been involved with a person that has really put God first as of yet. But, I am still waiting.

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