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Comment by Maggie Flagg on November 4, 2009 at 2:14pm

I wish I had some magic wand I could just wave and all the hurt and pain would go away instantly for all of us. The best thing is God. He is still working on me. It's that stinkin evil one that won't leave me alone. I have been in your shoes Becky. I know how you feel. Rejection is not a good thing to have to go through. I will pray that God will bless you with all you need. It will take time. Live one day at a time and don't do what I've done for 10 years now. Worry. I have finally gotten that out of my system for the most part. I back slide some times. I wish you peace in your heart. Don't let the evil one crack you into peices for as long as he has me. I have to constanly rebuke him. I've been reading alot of self help books by Joyce Meyer, Dr. Charles Stanley...etc. They are helping me to see myself. Anyway, I'm glad your here with us. We do care and understand. Bless you.....Maggie

Comment by Becky Grey on November 4, 2009 at 10:56am

I'm so glad for this site. My marriage of 30 years ended on Sept 12th, 2009. I'm without a job now and it seems there are times that Satan draws me into the past. Please be praying that I will allow God to heal the wounds of rejection. I look over the past year and I see how God has been there lifting me up with the support of my family and friends and I praise Him for that. I'm in awe of His love for me. I ask that you will also be praying that I will follow Him where he wants me and will provide a job. Thank you, Becky

Comment by mary jamieson on November 3, 2009 at 5:03am

hi bob this is very hard for me i ran from my firist husband and i did not realise the pain his actions and my reactions had caused. i remember him asking me to forgive him for he did not know what love was. I have been asked to call in on him and have a talk. i was very worried by this a tele him to ask why , he thinks he is dying and wants me to take care of his funneral arrangements he is 65, donna and eye always say he is a cup half empty, i know i should show more mercy i feel still angry with this man for he is still always thinking of himself. I NEED TO BE STRONG IN THE LORD JESUS and not in my anger towars him could you please ask the father for a prayer for me.i realise i am still in fear of this man and it is he that is sick and alone, i should not have the fear. and i need it to go away before i am able to help him.

Comment by Mayra Vasquez-Taveras on November 1, 2009 at 9:52am

Thank You Bob I receive this blessing in Jesus name Amen!

God Bless you. Mayra

Comment by Bob B on October 2, 2009 at 8:22pm

Mayra Vasquez I can tell that God has given you a compassionate heart in your whole process. God is so good and is full of mercy and compassion for all of us who mess us. He will turn our mess into a message when we give it all to him.

God bless you with his peace during this time in your walk with him.

In the love of Jesus
Bob

Comment by Bob B on October 2, 2009 at 8:17pm

Maggie Flagg You prove that the pain of divorce is hard to deal with even after many years. We all wish that we did things different, or better, but it is important to leave the past in the past and do not bring it into the present. It is much easier said, than done. After 28 years of marriage and three years of separation my divorce will be done by February. It was not my choice as my wife has turned from the Lord and has made the world her friend. My 3 children are adults which makes my situation easier to deal with, but my children are not walking with the Lord either and treat me like I am an outsider.

We must never compromise our stand for Christ because we are the life line for our children especially.

May God give you his continued pace and strength.

In the love of Jesus
Bob

Comment by Maggie Flagg on October 2, 2009 at 6:48pm

I've been divorced for 10 years. It took me 5 to be able to stop crying. I know it's different for each of us. I guess it would be easier if my two grown daughters were in my life. They aren't of their own free will. I miss them so very much. I know I wouldn't be so depressed if they were in my life. It would of been easier all the way around. They at one point called me a "Bible Thumper" because I have a relationship with God. I agree with some of you that wish our society wouldn't look at marriage as a throw away institution. I didn't want to get divorced. I couldn't stop him. He was a non believer. So it was easier for him. My second mistake was not raising my children up to know God. Why I didn't still haunts me. I guess I was so "in-love" with him that I made him my God. I wish every day I had done things differently. I can't get those years back. All I can do is pray for God to draw them to him. I do have a hard time forgiving myself for that mistake. Yes, I know I shouldn't. God has forgiven me. But, as a mother, I failed to do what God wanted me to. Now they aren't in my life because of it. So...divorce is a hideous thing and the hurt goes on for a long time to everyone involved. It stinks, but that's the nature of the beast. I wish no one ever had to go through it. I was married for 22 years. 20 before he told me he wanted the divorce. It took 2 years for the legal stuff before it was finalized. It was my 1st marriage. I just hope God will let me find the love of a good godly man and a second marriage before I die. But, it's all in his plan. I just have to wait and see. I haven't had success with the two other relationships I've been in since my divorce. They failed not due to anything I did though. I don't tend to pick the right men. Anyway... I know we all are in the same boat. All we can do is trust in God and move on. It's not easy. Hang in there and pray alot. Life has to get better!!! At least I know God is making me a stronger and better human being!! Thank you Lord!! Bless all of you....Maggie

Comment by Mayra Vasquez-Taveras on August 29, 2009 at 4:39pm

I've been seperated for 6 years now and that was the breaking point in my life...I went downhill instead of allowing God to guide me I left the door wide open for the enemy to come rite in and the rest is now history because thanks to God I finally found my way home it took me long enough and hurt myself as well as a lot of people I love dearly on this journey to distruction, but I thank God for helping me find a way out. I am currently in the process of Divorce and happy to talk about it. God allowed me to see what I was blinded to see and forgave and now I finally can move on with my life...God opened my eyes to the truth and I am soo grateful! If anyones needs to talk or just someone to listen I am here offering you all my support and just to share our trails together. Good Luck to everyone and God Bless. Remember God is the right way and nothing is impossible for Him, so regardless how u feel or where u are going remember to look for God and Trust in Him and He will provide! Amen.

Comment by Joe Christie on August 10, 2009 at 9:00pm

firts i want thank those who have welcomed me so far.
im confused so much, i know God canfix anything ive seen him do it many times. i want this to be over iam struggling so hard to hold on to his hand. just a breif description of my situation. afriend of min was going through a hard time in his marriage so doing what i thought was the christian thing to do i opened my home and family to him just to find out i was the last to know that he was having an affair with my wife, i tried so hard to work it out, at the time i was drivin truck and God and i got so close and he show me and told me that my wife and were to be together but its not turning out that so do i let go of that, or is that giving up on God any advice and all prayer is greatly appreciated.

Comment by Paul on August 5, 2009 at 1:01pm

Dear Brother Sambhunath, if you not a Christian I pray that you will be now, Get a bible and read through the new testiment very carefully. Jesus loves you very much, but you musat getto know him and who he is.Amen look up adultery for a start it's in the ten comandments, your friend.Paul

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