Getting over the loss of a loved one

[lindsey finestone]

Hi last year on September 15th my father suddenly passed away and 6 months later my Mother died of a broken heart she just couldnt face life without my Dad .I am now trying to get over their deaths but keep thinking of them and how much i miss them ,we were a very close family and now thats all gone ,my brother lives in Australia so i dont have any family here as my 2 sons live in the uk as well as the extended family ,i have asked the Lord to help me get past this stage and would like any advice from people in similar situations thank you and God bless

[LT]

There is no short cut to the healing process. Everyone mourns differently and we heal differently. It will take time. If you feel your grief is unusually large you may seek a Christian counselor to help you face-to-face. I would also encourage you to be involved in a positive church family if you are not.

Lord Bless,
LT

[Theresa]

I am sorry for the loss of your mom and dad and being so far away from your kids, it must really hurt, especially when you did not grow up like this. I say that time heals everything, it takes time. I would use this time right now to get closer to the Lord and focus on Him, ask Him to send you close godly friends who share your views on things and you guys can spend time together, the most important thing is that the Lord knows where you are at right now and He promised you never to leave you, never ever to forsake you.
Lindsey, this scripture came to me when I read what you wrote here, Isaiah 26:3 Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee: because he trusteth in thee.

[Gayla]

Hi Lindsey.....(((hugs))) I know your heart is hurting now... but, take heart, we love you and God loves you more !!!!

A very comforting thought to hold onto, is the fact that you had a loving relationship with both parents...this is so rare nowdays.... as many homes are split up, and the people scattered all over the country.

You have something that you can enjoy as you feel the need, and that is the wonderful gift of memories.

You can relive these, as often as you choose,

I understand what it means to loose both parents, as I too have experienced this, not the same way, but, death always touches the ones who loved the ones who have passed, no matter the situation.

My aunt that I was very close to, also died, within 6 mos. of the loss of her soulmate. She simply did not wish to live without him, and God has just recently brought another dear one across my path, that feels the same way, after the love of her life, passed, after 20 wonderful years of marriage.

Time does heal our loss, if we allow God to be right there with us, holding our hand, and allowing the grieving process to take its course.

Allow those wonderful memories to grow into a tree of remembrance..... or a memorial to those who meant so much to you....

God be with you..... (((hugs)))

[Ginnybee]

Remember, Jesus relates to our sadness, He empathizes with us. He wept when He saw Mary and Martha's sadness over the death of their brother Lazarus, edifying the fact. He loves us so much, and He is so close to us that He knows our names. Ask Jesus to hold you tight and He will. Ask Him to hold your hand and He will.

What did Jesus do next? Jesus raised Lazarus from the dead to reflect His power over death. It provided us proof that even though we die, we live. As long as we acknowledge Jesus as Christ and we accept His leadership into our lives we will live...even though we die. Isn't that awesome to know!

My dad passed on in July of this year. We were very close, and I miss him very much, but by the following I get by pretty well--I even begin to rejoice at the thought of my dad's passing. Here is what I do, and suggest for you. Remind yourself often of the location of your parents. They are alive (if they were saved). They remember you as if they saw you just moments ago. They await your arrival in the place of heaven so they can remain with you in the Lord's Kingdom forever! Right now it's as if they are promoted to their true home, where they will suffer no more. You will meet them at that perfect home as soon as your work here is done.

God be with you!
Ginny

[mary jamieson]

hi i have just visited the grave of my daughter after 6 years i thought it was four i had so much fear about going it was so hard i ask for prayer and the day was sunny as i set out i felt so close to god and it was such a loverly peaceful feeling i dont know why i was so feafull i met my grandson an hour later at the grave and we hugged its his mum that died and we just hugged in hope and not in fear as we both felt the last time we were there i hope this encourages you for i did not think my hope would ever come back again to hope in the lord FAITH HOPE AND LOVE WHEN YOU ARE GREIVING YOU CAN NOT SEE FAITH HOPE AND LOVE BUT THEY ARE STILL THERE AND THEY WILL COME BACK LOVE MARY

[Pastor Siosiua Ma'u]

Yes, Is hard to get over it but we must die before we rise up again. Forget about the first part and focus on the second part.Endure the first part and rejoice after.They were parts of our heart and thats why we miss them but when we give our hearts to Jesus, the only one thing that He asked from us on the cross then He can renew the old one and put a new one. The heart that can remember all the advice and love from our parents to share with others may be a good teaching aid . Jesus' Blood is the Blood can wash away
all our fears. Keep on trusting God like a mountain that cannot move . I will pray for you as well. Pastor Siosiua Ma'u.

[Scott Hayes]

Dear Lindsey,

I am sorry to hear about the loss of your father and mother. I just lost my mother last month. As these people have said, it will get better. I believe it will. I know we don't know each other, but I would like to pray for you.

God bless,
Scott

[deedee310]

Hi There Lindsey

Last September 1st, my brother tragically drowned and it tore me to pieces. He was camping with his family and drowned while swimming in the lake. This was a very sudden and my family was in total shock. My family consisted of my father, mother and my two brothers. My brother was 33 years old when he passed last year. It is still very hard for my family, there are still times where I think about him and I just cry and can't stop. Every now and then I go find one of his shirts or sweaters and hold them close to me. When he first died, it was so hard, so difficult every day. But it has been a year and it has gotten easier for me. During the last year, I am learning to trust in God, no matter what the situation may be, or how hard it is.
I honestly don't think that you will ever get over it, I know that I will never get over my brother being gone. But I believe that eventually I can't learn to live with it and it will not hurt so bad. Losing someone that is close to you is something that you will never get over... but as time goes on it does get better. Sure you are going to have your moments when you cry and mourn over them and that is normal. Don't let anyone tell you that it is not, and you should get over it! Crying is healthy for you, it's better than keeping it bottled up inside.
Ever person deals with death differently, my advice is to do whatever gets you through it. Whether it's reading a book, going to the mall, watching movies, or chatting with other people.
You aren't alone in your grief, there are so many others that are walking that road right along with you. I know that my brother was a believer in Jesus Christ and I hold on to the fact that one day I will get to be with him again. I don't know when, but I believe that one day we will be reunited. That is one of the things that keep me going whenever I think about him.
I hope that the pain of your loss eventually eases....

Blessings
DEE