Forgiveness

[Sara]

If you have forgiven someone who has hurt you because they committed a sin against you, but they are not sorry for it and have not asked for forgiveness, they also continue to do this against all advice of the people who love them and it is still hurting other people, do you have to accept what they are doing in order to truly forgive them?

[Carol]

I have forgiven some people including my own parents who committed sins against me and they were never sorry for what they did, but I forgave them anyway, I had to in order to move on with my life

Carol

[Carla]

Hi Patience...Love your name...Do you have some extra to toss my way?

Forgiveness is a choice. You do not have to accept what they are doing. As a matter of fact, you must stand your ground and stand up for what you know to be right...and with Love, forgive them. Let them know that you disagree with what they are doing, but that you Love them. Also remember to pray for God's Strength, wisdom and discernment. People will know when they are truly forgiven, they can feel it in their spirits.

We must forgive others just as God forgave us.

Col 3:13 You must make allowance for each other's faults and forgive the person who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others.

Luk 6:37 "Stop judging others, and you will not be judged. Stop criticizing others, or it will all come back on you. If you forgive others, you will be forgiven.

Mat 6:15 But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins.

Blessings, Carla

[Moomins]

You can forgive someone for hurting you, truly forgive them, and never ever accept what they have done or continue to do. No matter how difficult the situation we are commanded to forgive but that doesn't mean we condone whatever someone has done or is doing. If you have truly forgiven someone for a hurt they caused you then very well done, forgiveness is a struggle, infact sometimes a battle. All you can really do now is show to show love and pray for this person, hopefully one day they will realise the enormity of Gods love and grace.

moomins
xxx

[Sara]

Thank you all and God bless you. I was struggling, I forgave them and let go of my bitterness and anger but I didn't know if since I forgave them that I had to give in to what they wanted even if it hurt others. Thank you I now feel at peace with my decision to stand firm.

Love to all of you,
Patience

[lisa]

well i have to have forgiveness for someone who has sinned agianst me if i dont i'll build a resentment and resentment to me is like drinking poison waiting for them to die..thats why i have to let go and let god work it out..if there are still sinning i have to let go and pray for them..and make peace that that was all i could do in the situation..hope this helps u..

[Louisa]

Hi...i am struggling with forgivness. I have recently been hurt very badly. I told the person that i had forgiven them, but in my head/heart im not sure. I also wronged them afterwards...i wonder if they will forgive me? It isn't as easy as it sounds!

[LT]

Forgiveness has two basic parts. 1) Forgive the person before God even before they ask for forgiveness, if they ever do ask. Jesus on the cross asked the Father to forgive those who were crucifying Him. They had not asked for forgiveness (this is not forgiveness for salvation). The Father commands us to forgive (Mt. 6:14-15 Col. 3:13). You may not feel like forgiving. That is not the issue. The Lord calls us to do it. If you do not want to forgive ask the Father to help you to fulfill the command to forgive. Another helpful thing is to pray positively for the other person. God does an amazing work in us when we pray positively for others. If you feel anxiety or hate rise up, take it to the Lord everytime the the anxiety or hate manifest themselves asking for help to let it go. 2) Forgiving the other person. If you truly forgive someone before the Father, if the day ever comes that they ask for forgiveness you will easily extend it because you have already let it go to God.

If you have wronged someone then the Word tells us to ask for forgiveness. They may or may not accept it. Your responsibility to ask for forgiveness. You have no control over whether they will extend it. If they do not, walk away knowing you have done the right thing.

This is a starting point ... seek to give it to God seeking His help to empower you to accomplish it to the point that the slate is cleaned fully and the other person has been truly forgiven by you. It is not easy, especially depending on the offense.

I am praying for you that God will release you, because bitterness and anger will harm you more than the person you may be mad at.

Lord Bless,
LT

[Sara]

Thank you, I have forgiven him. It gave me such a since of peace. I still don't condone his actions or anything that he is doing but I am not angry or bitter anymore. God bless you.

[Louisa]

Thank you so much...your words have really helped me to understand. Thankyou for your prayers...i will also pray for you as for you giving me uderstanding through Christ.

God Bless you always
Louisa

[Carla]

Hello Everyone!

Patience...Praise God that you have forgiven these who have hurt you. Last night and today...I received a new personal revelation of God's forgiveness...It was through a personal experience in my life.

I come from an abusive past..my natural father was an abusive man. I have forgiven him...

Living in the past
I hadn't seen or spoken to the relatives on my fathers side for several years (30 years actually)...I didn't know any better, and it was too painful. But over the past two years I have forgiven my father. I haven't seen or heard from him since I was 15 years old, it is possible that he has passed away. He was imprisoned for life for what he had committed.....I had to testify against him in court for the abuse he cause to me and to many others..when I did that he denied knowing me...attempting to plead a case of insanity I am assuming...
But I can tell you now...at the time it hurt me tremendously. It is no wonder I grew up with enormous anxiety and torment. This is all in hindset as the Lord has healed me from this...

Looking forward to my God of all Hope....
Even though I know in my heart I have forgiven my father, GOD WASN"T DONE WITH ME YET!..In This there was still more work to. God revealed that to me last night!

My Aunt...my fathers sister passed away. Her funeral is today. After all these years she had suffered tremendously due to sadness over my fathers actions and abuse..and also that it separated us as family.

So...God enabled in me an enormous Love for these people whom I have not seen for about 30 years. Last night, I went to the funeral home, and made peace. I was welcomed with open arms....and such a beautiful acceptance. God is so awesome how He works a tremendous healing in all of our hearts...in His timing, when He knows the time is right. God did not rush me into this...He Graciously guided me and led me. Now there is an open door to building new relationships...and starting fresh. I don't really have many pictures from my childhood, but one of my aunts has several photo albums which she has kept all these years. She has promised to give them to me. :) ...God knew I was missing that in my life...
This morning, I read this scripture:

Jhn 20:22 Then he breathed on them and said to them, "Receive the Holy Spirit.
Jhn 20:23 If you forgive anyone's sins, they are forgiven. If you refuse to forgive them, they are unforgiven."

It is a choice...to forgive. But it is the Holy Spirit who enables us to do so. The choice we make is to live in the past, OR...to live in Christ Jesus...Our God of all Hope!

Praise You Lord for your faithfulness! You know the healing that each of us needs in our hearts...and you will see to it, that we are free. All we need to do is trust in You completely. Thank you Lord. I know I am yours..and You are mine.

Be Blessed..and always look to our God of all Hope. He is Faithful. And He loves each one of us so very much.

Rom 15:13 So I pray that God, who gives you hope, will keep you happy and full of peace as you believe in him. May you overflow with hope through the power of the Holy Spirit. Amen Indeed!

[LT]

Carla,

Praise God for your healing dear sister and your renewal.

Lord Bless ya sister,
LT

[Bev]

I have noticed here, in this forum and on this whole site in general that God not only works on us, for us with us, etc, in our individual situations but He also works the same in others THROUGH our situations. God is so awesome and so thorough and so consistent.

Peace!!