My problems with my husband of 38 years

[Gertrude Lulabelle Liverpoor]

I have been married for 38 years with the last year my husband and I have been separated for 9 months. We started drifting apart ( or so he says) and he started seeing a woman at work who ended up becoming more than friends. For the last 9 months he has been seeing her and does not want to come back home and work on our marriage. We have been to counseling that didn't help. The counselor said there was no sense in continuing the counseling because you can not rebuild a marriage with a triangle (my husband, myself and the other woman). I have talked to him about reconciling for months but he refuses to listen. Actually, he listened but then he tells me that he doesn't want to come back to our marriage because he is happy where he is now. He says our marriage was dull and unexciting. He says the relationship he is in is very passionate. The woman he is seeing is also married and has been separated from her husband for a long time. I have been praying for him constantly but nothing has worked. I know that God is working in my life but I don't understand why he refuses to come back to the marriage. I told him that I would never try and work things out with him as long as he is seeing another woman so he said that he wouldn't stop seeing her so right now I don't know what to do. I am frustrated, angry and unhappy. I continue to pray for him and I ask God to remove my anger and bitterness. I don't know what else to do since he refuses to come back. Actually, he did say he would come back but if he did it would only be out of obligation and because of finances. He is struggling keeping the mortgage payments, etc. going at our house and also at the place he is staying. I told him I didn't want him to come back because of those reasons. I told him I wanted him to come back because he is committed to the marriage and wants to work things out. He is not willing to even try. I would just like to talk to someone about what I am going through and to see if there is anyone out there in cyberspace who has gone through what I am going through. BTW, my husband is 57 years old. At first I thought it was just a midlife crisis or just a fling but it has gone on for 9months and it doesn't look like it's going to end. I am trying to go on with my life as best I can but it is so hard. I need prayer and more prayer. I know that all things are possible with God.
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[maggie hancox]

Oh dear!
the relationship for him with this woman will be exciting..it is exciting to play with fire...until you get burned!

he does not hold value for you as a husband should, and even though you know this, I wonder if you relize your value to your Father most high!
You are his daughter, his precious possession.

This possition you are in is taking your power from you, or rather you are letting your power be taken.

God does not want you to be powerless!!!!

Give this problem to God, that is all that you can do. Step away from this situation, give it to God and pray ernestly.

Draw closer to your Father most high, get to know HIM as your most important man in your life, get to know his true nature that will never change, for he is the same today as he was yesterday and he will forever be the same.

If you make God the head of your household THE FOCUS then things will as romans 8:28...says all things work together for the good of those who love him and live according to his purpose.

God hears your heart, he hears your crys and your fears and he has better plans for you then even you can dream up!!

Please listen, put the focus and energy you are putting on your husband on GOD on getting to know him and his ways and watch as you realize that God is the giver of good gifts.

I can not say if your husbands heart will change, I know that all things are possible with God, but who knows the plans of the Father. Maybe he has better plans that will bring you much more joy in mind.

Let your Father guide your steps, learn of his true nature and trust in it, all things will follow.

I know it to be true that what ever situation you face that when God is the head of your life then you can live joyfully dispite your troubles. I will pray for you.

[mawee burgos]

just let go of your bitterness and anger, god will make a way in his own right time...hold on ad keep on praying for your husband to his other woman.....may god bless you..im just new in this sight..i do hope i can have so many friends i can on here whenever im weary, disturbed and hopeless.....



mrs . mawee

[Gayla]

Dear Lillie... As I read thru the posts, I see you growing stronger and stronger.... in God. Praise his name !!! He can carry you thru this storm, and put you on solid ground, just keep your eyes upon him. He wants to be your husband.... and when he is, he will NEVER LEAVE YOU, NOR FORSAKE YOU..... HE WILL STICK CLOSER THAN A BROTHER..... HE IS NOT A MAN, THAT HE SHOULD LIE.

He can bring good out of any bad situation, keep your heart and mind steadfast upon him, and upon his word.....

Look to him, when you are up, and when you are down.... he is the same.....and changes not. He will be there for you.

Let him have the problem.....and receive his solution.


Be blessed..... in Him.

[Roberta Perez]

Hi Lillie,

I just read your blog. And i want to send out my love and prayers to you and your family. Iam so sorry to hear what you are going through. Just remember that God does hear your prayers and in time you will hear him. I remember that someone once told me that God answers our prayers but it doesn't mean it was the answer we are looking for. God is in control - not us.

God Bless and you are in our prayers

[Stephanie]

I am so sorry you are in this mess too. My husband and I have been seperated for 3 months. He also had and is having an affiar. It is easy to be angry at him, but I try to tell myself everyday that I love him. I am confused as to what God wants me to do. I wish I could say something that would make you feel better. All I can say is you are not alone. I will be thinking of you and keeping you and your husband in my prayers.

Stephanie

[Majorie Mitti Malata]

Hi Lillie Walls

May the Lord God Bless you in every thing that you are doing , The Lord will here your cry, God listens to his children for he says that ask in the Name of the Lord and you shall be given,seek and you shall find, knock the door shall be opened unto you. anthing is impossible in GOD.

May the Lord Bless u now and forevermore

Majorie Mitti Malata